THE EXACT MEANING OF ISTIKHARA
The word Istikhara directly means, to ask Allah to guide one to the right sort of action concerning a job or deed. ‘Khair’ means good (asking Allah to guide you to the good or right answer). Meaning, you’re not asking Allah to show you a vision, through a dream.
DREAMS AND ISTIKHARA
People generally think about their dreams, as answers from God. However, dreams generally comprise our thoughts, ambitions, etc. that ar already created up in our minds. typically times we tend to mistake these dreams/thoughts for Allah’s word. within the time of wedding or finding a life partner, folks raise their relatives to try and do Istikhara further. However, the foremost necessary folks during this wedding ar the guy and womanobtaining married. So, they must do Istikhara for themselves. we tend to ar educated from an awfully young age to raise Supreme Being for an appropriate life partner, this can be additionally a kind of Istikhara. therefore, another time, it’s necessary that the guy and woman do Istikhara. If two people get contradicting dreams it could mean that the message was actually the same but misinterpreted. Be certain that you can’t get two different answers from Allah, it’s a mistake in our own interpretation. Which is why, the guy and girl should pray, and go with their gut feeling, not what others dream of.
THE IMPORTANCE OF ISTIKHARA
The importance of Istikhara can be seen from the following Hadith:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) used to teach us the way of doing Istikhara, in all matters as he taught us the Surahs of the Qur’an. He said, “If anyone of you thinks of doing any job he should offer a two rak’at prayer otehr than the compulsory ones and say (after the prayer): “Allahumma inni astakhiruka bi’ilmika, Wa astaqdiruka biqudratika, Wa as’alaka min falika Al-‘azlm Fa-innaka taqdiru Wala aqdiru, Wa ta’lamu Wala a’lamu, Wa anta ‘allamu l-ghuyub, Alahumma, in kunta ta’lam anna hadha-lamra Khairun li fi dini wa ma’ashi wa’aqibati ‘Amri Faqdirhu wa yas-sirhu li thumma barik li Fihi, Wa in kunta ta’lamu anna hadha-lamra shar-run li fi dini wa ma’ashi wa’aqibati ‘Amri Fasrifhu anni was-rifni anhu. Waqdir li al-khaira haithu kana Thumma ardini bihi.’ (O Allah! I ask guidance from Your knowledge, and Power from Your Might and I ask for Your great blessings. You are capable and I am not. You know and I do no and You know the unseen. O Allah! If You know that this job is good for my religion and my subsistence and in my Hereafter, Then You ordain it for me and make it easy for me to get, And then bless me in it, and if You know that this job is harmful to me in my religion and subsistence and in the Hereafter, Then keep it away from me and let me be away from it. And ordain for me whatever is good for me, And make me a satisfied with it). The Prophet (peace be upon him) added that then the person should name (mention) his need.
HOW DOES ONE PERFORM ISTIKHARA?
If any problem comes your way, the following steps should be taken to perform Istikhara:
- Perform 2 Rak’ah of (Nafl) prayer:
- In the first Rak’ah read Surah Al-Kafiroon
- In the next Rak’ah read Surah-Al-Ikhlas
- (Perform the rest of the prayer as you would normally)
- Read the Dua for Istikhara
Many people say that the 2 Rak’ah of Nafl prayer should be read after Isha’a only because one can go to sleep directly after, and see a dream (if that’s meant to happen). However, no where in the Hadith is a specific time for performing Istikhara given. In the Hadith it shows that one should perform Istikhara whenever they need to.
CAN ONE DO ISTIKHARA WITHOUT KNOWING THE PRAYER?
It would be beneficial to memorize the Istikhara prayer. However, if one is unable to do so, then they can say the prayer in their own words. Basically, if you don’t know the prayer, you are still able to do Istikhara, but the words (of the prayer) that have been taught to us by the Prophet (peace be upon him) would be more effective and result in more blessings.
PRAYING FOR DECISION PURPOSES
Please remember that Istikhara is not only for marriages! Istikhara should be an important part of every important decision that you make in your life. For example, if something comes up, and you only have a few moments to make a decision, you can still do Istikhara because it’s technically just a prayer.